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Jeth's avatar

@Sensigirl @Underwolfe Thank you for the comments. It's funny how these experiences cement themselves into your mind as when I was writing this, I could smell popcorn - associations, mental anchors and so on. If we want to excel at the really useful skills of avoidance and de-escalation, we have to honestly look at and analyse times when it really didn't work out for us. They're often just as important and useful as a story that makes us look cool (wish I had more of those).

It really was a baggage/ mindset error first and foremost for me , I happily shot my mouth off at those guys at the time (error 1), it's just that I realised instantly they were playing a far more serious game with me than I wanted . You transfer your set of values that others don't share and that can be a fatal mistake (error 2).

I've had some emails on this topic and will continue it further.

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Wow what a story! That is a great example of learning when and when not to speak up when in the presence of sincere cunts.

This is certainly an experience we can all learn from so thank you!

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